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How It Started

In July of 2017, God spoke to Ashlyn R. Watkins through a prophet she never met before who told her “God is about to do something that will blow your mind,” there were many other details in that word, but that is for another time. The weekend after that word she was sitting at a Bridal shower watching the bride-to-be open gifts of lingerie to a melody of laughter and cheers, when she realized, “This excitement of new marriage should be celebrated for wives already married too. They need a boost not only at the beginning but years later after life happens.” So, that night she sat with God at home where He began to download the blueprint of Spiced Wife® and it was later launched in May of 2018! Since then, it has blossomed all over the world to be known as the ministry that’s helping bedrooms regain holiness and sexiness!

Through the Spiced Wife® podcast, retreats, books, and mentoring, wives receive edification on how to be confident in faith and SPICE! What is spice? All categories of sexy for the wife! Ashlyn answers all questions and shares bedroom tips about music, positions, getting in the mood, self-confidence, vaginal care, mind transformation, and MUCH more! This is the place you will get the Bible in every discussion without feeling stiff or condemned! You will feel the joys of laughter, encouraged, convicted, and upgraded!

​God created sex as a gift to the husband and wife; so, this ministry boldly believes it is okay to learn about it, express thoughts about it, and receive Biblical advice about it without religious legalism or immoral cultural influence.  Ashlyn teaches wives to have the confidence to go directly to God for approval over their bedrooms, appearances, and lifestyle. She searches for the truth in the Scriptures to remove the guilt, shame, and sense of dirtiness that many women experience from past experiences.  

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Ashlyn R. Watkins


“Growing up in church all I heard about sex was, "no, no, no," but when I finally got married, I realized there was no one to teach me the "yes, yes, yes!" No one was readily comfortable giving me tips on how to do things in the bedroom with godly confidence. I knew people were having sex, the kid’s ministry kept growing!! Someone knew something, but it was so hush-hush on building the spice in that area. Sex belongs to God! And while the myth has it that only husbands enjoy it… God wants us wives to like it, own it, and know it too! So, I talk about it ALL and I am determined to help us know how to take off the religious masks of performance to please God both in private and in public! Spiced Wife® is not just me, it who so ever will. Claim it! Own it! ‘I am a Spiced Wife!’ You’ll find a Bible and lubricant on our nightstand! We are holy and sexy and confident about it!” - Ashlyn

Ashlyn R. Watkins is a vibrant wife, mother, speaker, and author, who believes the beauty of a woman is not found in her looks, but in her behavior. Growing up as a preacher's kid, she found herself faced with judgment and disappointment when she became a teenage mother. Nevertheless, she overcame the odds and now serves others in helping them do the same. 

She has an energetic passion and undeniable wisdom toward teaching the Word of God! She loves to connect with her audience through open, honest, and transparent experiences and Biblical truths. She is the founder and host of the Spiced Wife podcast where she teaches wives how to take immorality & religious legalism out of their bedrooms to seek God alone for approval in their sexiness. 

She has a Bachelor's in psychology, a Master's Certificate in Christian Counseling, and Professional Mentorship Certification, but her biggest achievement is her devotion to daily studying the Word of God! Ashlyn helps wives all over the world to know God deeper and enjoy the bedroom better. Ashlyn does not credit success to her graduate studies, but only to the wisdom and gifts of the Spirit. She walks boldly in the acceptance of Jesus and humbly serves God's people seeking to make disciples and advance the Kingdom of God one bedroom at a time! 


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Just wanted to say I recently found your podcast and I love it. You are awesome! 😊 I first listened to Godly Wife and I then I was hooked. Thanks for all your wonderful words!

Kelsy B.

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At Spiced Wife®, we recognize that sex is not a sinful thing when experienced for the purpose God designed it for. We are about building wifely sisterhood, and taking a firm stand against gossip, arrogance, slander, and negative criticism. We are all about building trust, laughter, kindness, and honesty. We take off the make-up and have compassion for each other, we hold each other accountable by adjusting the woman in the mirror first. We are a community that is truly built on the love and correction of Jesus.

  • We believe in God the Father, The Son, and The Holy Spirit.

  • We believe Jesus came to earth free of sin and died on the cross for our sins so that we might be reconciled back to God.

  • We believe that Jesus rose from the grave and will return one day to take His people away from the earth.

  • We are not affiliated with any specific religious denomination or church; our foundation is based solely on the guidance of the Holy Spirit & Scripture.

  • We believe in keeping God first in our lives and marriages between one man and one woman.

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